Does Marriage Mean Anything?

A few nights ago, I was watching the local news when a story came on about a new social networking/dating website that specifically targets married people. Their tagline was even something like, "life is short, have an affair". I'm not even going to mention the companies name because they don't deserve recognition on my blog! I am disgusted by this. When is it ok for married people to casually cheat? Does marriage not mean anything to anyone these days? What's the point of getting married if you are just going to cheat throughout the marriage?

This company had millions of users and Ohio had the second highest member rate in the country. What is wrong with people? They interviewed the guy who started it, he's happily married and says his wife has no problems with it. Well, of course she has no problem with it, you are probably a millionaire! How could you feel good about yourself when you are promoting and glamorizing infidelity and breaking up of families? Can you feel proud of yourself, or feel like a success knowing that you are causing other people (including children) so much pain and heartache? What happens if an upset husband decides to come after YOU because you started the damned thing? HA, then you would get what you deserve!

So, I'm looking for some opinions here. What is your opinion on websites like this that promote cheating? What does the word marriage mean to you? Some people think marriage is just a piece of paper while others believe that marriage is forever, through thick and thin. How many of you believe that marriage is supposed to be forever? Maybe I'm old fashioned in that sense, but when I got married it was to be forever, and even though we have been through Hell and back, I still imagine growing old with my husband. Marriage is not easy, and there will be temptations, but you have to be stronger than the temptations if you truly love and care about your spouse. Do you agree? Tell me.

Women and Child Support

Here's my rant of the week, or month.. whenever I feel like blogging: Women and the Child Support system.

First of all, I'm tired of all of these immature little girls (that don't even deserve to be called women yet) that wont let their child's father see his own kid. It is one thing if there is a sincere reason to believe your child will be in danger, however this is typically not the case. Women will keep their ex away from their child for petty reasons, or just to get even with them because they left, or hurt them. They think they are getting back at their kid's dad, but they are only hurting their child! Do they not realize that when that kid grows up and sees that it was his mom that kept his father away, that child will end up hating you for it? Do you not realize that a child needs a father in his life? Even if you think that your boyfriend, or current fling is a good father figure, he's not the biological father. Let your child see his own dad! When my husband and I split up, I was soo angry and hurt because of him and it would have been easy for me to tell him, "no, you can't see the kids".. but I didn't want to do that to my children because I know how much they love him. People like me and my husband grew up without a father in our life, because our dad's just didn't give a shit. We know what it's like to hurt, and wonder about our father, and wish we had that male role model in our life. Do you want your child to go through that just because you are being a selfish little bitch? If your ex wants to see his kid, LET HIM! I know mother's that will bribe their ex by telling them, "I will let you see your kid if you give me more money" (even though they pay child support already), or if you do this or that. Your child is not a THING! It is a human being; treat it like one!

This leads us to the whole child support thing. Ugh. This subject just pisses me off the more I think about it. Ok, first of all, child support enforcement is good when the dad is just a dead beat dad that doesn't care about his child, however I think the child support system needs to be ran better. They try to say that it's "for the children", but they don't give a crap about your kids, all they care about is that extra fee THEY get out of it. Most child support case workers treat all dads (and yes, some women) like dead beat pieces of crap. They are rude and nasty whenever the other parent calls in with a question. I've heard this from many, many different people who live in different counties and states. They will leave the father high and dry with nothing. I know people who work 40-50 hours a week, and go home with $90 in their pocket, because the rest of their check went to the mother, who sits on her ass and refuses to work. How is this FAIR? How is the father supposed to survive? No one can live on $95 a week! Oh, and if the mother goes on welfare, they will make the FATHER pay welfare back, too, on top of the child support! Are you freakin kidding me?? If the father has other kids at home to take care of, child support doesn't care about that. They are SUPPOSED to take other children into consideration when figuring up the amount to be paid for child support, but if the mother whines about it, it wont change. Then a lot of times, these men work their asses off only to have 3/4 of their check taken, and still don't get to see the kid because the mom wont let him! Child support wont do anything about that, they will just tell you that you have to get a lawyer to get visitations. Well, how the Hell is anyone supposed to afford a lawyer on $95 a week?? There just has to be a better way to run the child support system, and BOTH parents should be held accountable for their kids. It's not run fairly at all. Also, I know men who have been sent to jail because they got laid off and couldn't pay child support for a month, while there are others who haven't paid anything in 10 years and they don't get jail time or any kind of penalty. What's wrong with this??

Blah, I feel much better now after getting this all out. I'm not just speaking from my own experience (well my husband's experience) with child support, I've heard the same stories from people all over the state of Ohio and even other states. Most Child Support agencies are run the same way, and something needs to change.

Sex these days

A few weeks ago, I was in school and a fellow student told us the story about her son. She picked him up at school and he said he had to go to the Principal's office. He didn't get in trouble, it was just for them to talk to him about something he had seen. He and a few friends had walked into the bathroom and caught two kids having sex in the bathroom. How old were they? SECOND grade!!! The mother instantly called the Principal who said he was just about to call her and explain the situation. He told her that there indeed were two second graders in the bathroom having intercourse. What the Hell?? First of all, how the Hell do these kids know what sex is? Even sexy scenes in movies don't show the mechanics of it all. I guess there was going to be some investigating of the parents, but I don't know any of those details. I was purely sickened at the thought of 8 year olds having sex! What is going on here? Kids are having sex at a younger and younger age. Tweens are disgusting me how they sleep with each other as if it were a hobby, or giving someone a blow job is like passing notes in school. What happened that these kids think it's ok to sleep around with everyone in the school at such a young age? This same woman who told me this story also works at a Middle School and says that kids have been caught having sex at the school, and that the mall is the place where all the kids go to meet up for sex. I'm just disgusted by this and I'm damn worried about sending my kids to public school when they are older. Homeschooling looks mighty good right now.



I'm hoping I can get some input here as to what is causing this surge of sexual promiscuity at such a young age. These children are just that: children. Do you think it's because so many kids are having babies at such a young age? I know a woman who had a daughter at 14, then her daughter had a baby a 14, so she was a grandmother at 28! Can you imagine?? These kids are raising kids, and not teaching their children any kind of respect, or responsibility for themselves, or anyone else. How can they possibly know how to properly raise a child when they are still a child themselves? Is it the lack of a healthy role model in their life that makes them want to gain attention from the opposite sex any way that they can? Is it lack of parental involvement causing this?


What about society? Do you think society portrays sex as being a great thing? Showing young girls wearing way too revealing outfits? All these young singers wearing practically nothing, jumping around in front of everyone? I can't even tell you how many teenage girls I've seen dressed like hookers, and not for halloween. Magazines showing young girls that it's "cool" to dress like street walkers? Movies showing young kids being "in love" (which most of us grown ups know that it is pretty impossible to truly be in love at such a young age)?

Where do you think this is coming from? I would love to hear everyone's input on this!

High School Reunion

A few weeks ago I got a facebook invitation to my class reunion. I won’t say how many years because when I say it out loud it makes me sound really old! There is a facebook group for my graduating class, however only a few people from the group are on my friends list. I was thinking about going to the reunion this year, but then I was looking through photographs from the last reunion, and I thought to myself, I have not one single reason why I would want to see any of those people again. Ok, well maybe I wouldn’t mind seeing a few of them, but the rest of them.. gah!

My high school years pretty much sucked. I had a small group of friends, but most of the people in my class were either annoying prissy jock preps, or loud mouthed annoying assholes. Neither group I cared to associate with. In school I was extremely shy and insecure. I had my group of friends that I was comfortable with, but I didn’t go out of my way to talk to any of them, or vice versa. Some of them were complete assholes who thought it was fun to poke fun at the fat, quiet girl who wouldn’t stand up for herself (yeah, you were really tough, huh?). The other ones were just annoying to the point of making me want to stab myself in the eye with a spork at the mere sound of their voice.

Don’t get me wrong, there were a few people that were friendly to me, and I do remember those that were. The ones that I did consider to be a friend I am in contact with through places like myspace and facebook. The other ones… hmm, do I REALLY want to spend money and time with them when I didn’t like them in the first place? No. I think I will pass on the reunion. I have better things to do with my time, and there are not enough sporks in the world to make me want to spend it with these people!

On a serious note, I hope that some of these people know what they did to me. Some of my high school years were pure torture. I was made fun of, teased and taunted. It killed my self esteem. I spent most of my life hating myself and feeling worthless because of it. It was a form of abuse, and back then I wasn’t strong enough to stand up for myself, or fight back. I just took it. I hope some of them have grown up, and I hope they teach their children to be better. I just wish I had the backbone back then that I do now. I used to let everyone walk all over me, I was too insecure to do anything about it. BUT, I’m a better person now, and I know that I’ve always been a good person. I do hold grudges though, and these people will always be a pile of shit in my eyes.

People are so rude!

Do people not have common courtesy and manners when shopping for groceries (or in any store for that matter)? I hate going grocery shopping, I really do. It’s a pain in the butt shopping for a family of 5 and it’s even more of a pain when we have to take our kids with us. I mentioned in a previous post about my husband and I having manners and teaching our children manners. Well, we do. Even in stores we are always courteous to others, we say excuse me, and we apologize if we accidentily bump into someone. We also always make sure to stay out of other’s way. We stay on one side of the aisle so that there is room for other people to get through.

Obviously, there are some shoppers who think they own the whole damned store. They will stand right in the middle of the aisle even though they can plainly see other shoppers trying to get through. I went grocery shopping today and noticed a couple that were shopping. The woman was standing on one side of the aisle while her husband was standing on the other side of the aisle shouting to her what to get. Of course, if they BOTH stand on opposite sides there is no room for other people to get down the aisle!

A month or so ago, my husband and I were at the store and there were two women shopping together. They both had a cart and they were standing side by side in the aisle deciding what kind of salsa to get. We had to stand there and wait because there was no room to get through. There were about 3 or 4 other shoppers waiting on the opposite side. Finally, the one woman looked at the other woman and says, “well I guess I have to move because these people are giving me dirty looks”. I snickered when I heard that.. Then the conversation went something like that.

Rude Woman (not talking about me, talking about other shoppers): “Oh, that’s just so rude!”
ME: “No, what’s rude is standing in the middle of the damn aisle so no one can get through!”
RW: “Uhh, it’s called shopping!”
ME: “Uhh no, it’s called being a rude bitch and not having manners enough to get out of the damned way.. You can move over for people to get through!”..

.. She continued to mumble something to her friend, but not loud enough for me to hear…

Then there are the people who just cut you off and don’t even bother to say sorry or excuse me. Or the ones who just let their kids run around like wild animals getting in other shopper’s way. The parent just keeps shopping and doesn’t pay any attention to what their kid is doing. Or.. The people who stand in the middle of the aisle and chit chat with their buddy making everyone go around them or wait while they talk about their boring lives.

I mean, come on. Doesn’t anyone have manners these days? I just can’t believe how rude people are. Sometimes I just end up getting soo pissed off while at the grocery store because of other people. I’m one of those people who can’t keep their mouths shut about it either. If I think someone is being rude, I will say something loud enough for them to hear me!

Get some manners people! How rude!