Spoiled By Technology

I'm again inspired by things i can't say, but this time it's a rant. The post was originally about Christmas gifts and judging other people's choices..etc. It started out with someone asking for ideas of what to get a 4 year old for Christmas on facebook. Someone left a comment talking about their 11 year old nephew and allllll of the bazillion things this 11 year old had. Some of these things included various game consoles, a 50 inch TV, an iPad and a Blackberry, amongst other things. This is where the judgement came in. Some people thought it was great, while others thought it was awful. Where am I at in my opinion? Well, I don't like to judge other people because I don't like to be judged myself, and it is their choice of what to give their child, but shouldn't there be a line? I mean, seriously, why in the Hell does an 11 year old need a 50 inch TV or a freakin' Blackberry?? Are you kidding me? This is where my rant comes in. Of course, we all like to "spoil" our children, but where do you draw that line? My opinion is that if you give your child every single thing he wants, they will not appreciate hard work, or their possessions. They will also grow up being snobs to people who don't have everything and will expect to have everything handed to them. Even if I won the lottery and could afford all of those things, I still wouldn't buy all of that for my kids. They don't need them. They need to be outside playing like kids, or doing something important instead of sitting on their ass staring at a TV or computer screen. If they want some of those bigger things, they should earn them, such as with doing chores or getting a job (another reason why an 11 yr old doesn't need a Blackberry, if he's not even old enough to work!). Teach them responsibility and what it's like to work for the things that they want.

Last Christmas, my son cut out pictures in an advertisement and glued everything he wanted onto a piece of paper to send to Santa. I explained to him that he most likely wouldn't get every single thing! Even if I could have afforded it, I still would not have bought him every single thing on his list, I don't think that is teaching him anything good. No one likes those people who think they deserve to get everything they want, so why would I want to make my child like that? Does anyone else feel the same way? 

The second part of my rant: Technology is making people lazy and stupid. Ok, so I'm not a complete technology snob. I love my cell phone and my laptop. But guess what? I could survive without them. I may be disappointed but I would survive. People depend on electronics too much these days to do everything for them. A lot of teenagers don't even know how to do simple math because they've always had technology to do it for them. Kids aren't learning to use their brains, they are learning how to push buttons and have the answers given to them. Kids don't even know how to verbally communicate properly because they only know text messaging or instant messages. One day, my husband and I were waiting at a doctor's office. These two teenagers were next to each other, probably siblings, both of them had an iPad or something. They whole entire time I was there waiting, all they did was stare at their screens. They didn't once talk to each other or one another. It was like they were off in their own little electronic world. Technology is great for a lot of things and helps a lot of people, especially those with disabilities, but it's making the rest of the country stupid.

Sex these days

A few weeks ago, I was in school and a fellow student told us the story about her son. She picked him up at school and he said he had to go to the Principal's office. He didn't get in trouble, it was just for them to talk to him about something he had seen. He and a few friends had walked into the bathroom and caught two kids having sex in the bathroom. How old were they? SECOND grade!!! The mother instantly called the Principal who said he was just about to call her and explain the situation. He told her that there indeed were two second graders in the bathroom having intercourse. What the Hell?? First of all, how the Hell do these kids know what sex is? Even sexy scenes in movies don't show the mechanics of it all. I guess there was going to be some investigating of the parents, but I don't know any of those details. I was purely sickened at the thought of 8 year olds having sex! What is going on here? Kids are having sex at a younger and younger age. Tweens are disgusting me how they sleep with each other as if it were a hobby, or giving someone a blow job is like passing notes in school. What happened that these kids think it's ok to sleep around with everyone in the school at such a young age? This same woman who told me this story also works at a Middle School and says that kids have been caught having sex at the school, and that the mall is the place where all the kids go to meet up for sex. I'm just disgusted by this and I'm damn worried about sending my kids to public school when they are older. Homeschooling looks mighty good right now.



I'm hoping I can get some input here as to what is causing this surge of sexual promiscuity at such a young age. These children are just that: children. Do you think it's because so many kids are having babies at such a young age? I know a woman who had a daughter at 14, then her daughter had a baby a 14, so she was a grandmother at 28! Can you imagine?? These kids are raising kids, and not teaching their children any kind of respect, or responsibility for themselves, or anyone else. How can they possibly know how to properly raise a child when they are still a child themselves? Is it the lack of a healthy role model in their life that makes them want to gain attention from the opposite sex any way that they can? Is it lack of parental involvement causing this?


What about society? Do you think society portrays sex as being a great thing? Showing young girls wearing way too revealing outfits? All these young singers wearing practically nothing, jumping around in front of everyone? I can't even tell you how many teenage girls I've seen dressed like hookers, and not for halloween. Magazines showing young girls that it's "cool" to dress like street walkers? Movies showing young kids being "in love" (which most of us grown ups know that it is pretty impossible to truly be in love at such a young age)?

Where do you think this is coming from? I would love to hear everyone's input on this!

For the bullies out there!

I found this video lastnight and loved it! This is for all of the people like me who were tormented and abused as a child growing up! I'm not talking about physical abuse I'm talking about mental abuse from classmates throughout school. I am living PROOF that this kind of abuse can leave lasting effects on a person. I am 30 years old and still have a horrible self image and very low self esteem because of being told as a child and teenager that I was ugly and fat and not worth anything!

People need to start teaching their children from an early age to treat everyone equally! Don't judge others based on skin color, hair color, height, weight, or appearance in general! We should all treat others with the same respect we want to be treated with!!